I ever read an article about short term and long term memory. Usually the information that is not really useful we keep 'em in our short term memory, and the things we classified as IMPORTANT will be stored in the long term memory.
What happen in my life thru these 2-3 consecutive years is, I hardly remember someone's name, even I met her/him almost every day. Maybe I see her/him every day, but he/she does not bring anything important or meaningful to me. For example, I meet my senior in toilet every morning/night every day-maybe to queu for bath, or washing cloth together-and I asked her name in numbers of time, but still cant remember her. I am that BAD, right?
The intention of writing this post is, actually I just read a book, entitled "How to touch one's heart" by Abbas As Sissi. One of the way (The FIRST way) to catch someone's heart is by remembering his/her name. Not only nicknames, but also the family's name. This is a way to tighten the relationship, and a way to make friendships lasts forever.
Until now, I am struggling to remember all of my friend's name. In 4-5 years back, I used to remember all my classmates name with the 'bin' and 'binti', and even through the whole batch. And, the first time I try to practise this, it does happen like this:
ikin: Assalamualaikum
new friend: Wa'alaikumsalam
ikin: what's your name?
new friend: imah
ikin: imah binti...?
new friend: oh, you want to remember my father's name? (weird)
ikin: hehe..ya.. because I have a lot of friend named Imah.
People will feel weird at first, but Abbas As Sissi also teach us in the book how to start a conversation; which is by introducing your name first, and then later ask for the new person's name. Try to find the similarities that you can both share, and the conversation may continue smoothly.
p/s: I will be sitting for an important english test in two weeks, and this is a way of practising my writing (by writing blogs in English). My English is'nt really good, so, please criticize me. Thank you :)
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