Conversation about marriage and parenting with Eddie

So being singles and pretty, of course people will ask me why.

Why am I still single.

To me, it is okay to get married at what you call "late". We are more stable in term of financial and emotional.

I was so busy preparing myself, because at some point when time is come, I am at my 'utmost prepared' stage :D

Today I had lunch with my friend in industry called Eddie. He told me that he get married at 31 y.o.
Getting married at adult age makes us more responsible, we agreed that matured couple does not quarrel a lot. Dating at this age means we does not wait for so long before asking the big question: getting into marriage.

Now he have a couple of kids, with eldest is boy at age 8 y.o. and little girl is 4 y.o.
At this age, the eldest keep telling the parent that he doesnt feel loved

Conversation with this guy makes me realized few things;
1. My parent did a good job raising me. I never felt that they are imbalanced.. My parent (especially my dad) unconciously tell me how to love my siblings

2.  That we need to teach our kids about faith. At some point in life, our kid need God to trust their life with, where parent is no longer an important figure in their life, or parent is no longer there with us.

3. Being single for up until now give me lots of chances to learn about parenting....while everyone around me getting married, having kids, bear child etc etc

4. Its okay getting married at later age. We have enough time to be pretty and beautiful the way we want, strengthen our connection, grow our knowledge, meet lots of people & mix around with others with multiple background and origins

5. I told him to give attention to eldest boy.. giving attention to the eldest means taking care of his emotional. And this will teach him to give good example to the younger, and he will love the younger sister if you give attention to him.

6. Father plays huge, important roles in a kid's life. Father that plays a lot with son will grow a son that have lots of self confidence in himself. Theres no perfect parenting, but everyone is trying their best.

7. My dad still calls me from time to time basis to ask me about how do I do with my life, and whether I talk to my siblings about their problem. My father teach me that: "in later life, your younger siblings will feel strongly attached to you"

I will write more about my dad on his birthday next week.. stay tuned!